I just like saying Manic Monday. It's not like my Monday has been real crazy or anything.
I'm at work today...in the office. It's going ok. Nothing major.
I got the funniest card from my friend, Murgdan, this weekend. It cracks me up. And-bonus!- has made me smile countless times between when I got it and now. The card is about how even the Lord didn't know which came first - the chicken or the egg...and so he "shoveth'd the egg into the chicken, and it was good" -HA!!! May the Lord shoveth eggs into us - and it be good!
Infertile friends in real life provide such awesome companionship, support, conversation. And, I've found, that 9 out of 10 times, there are many more reasons we become friends and, I hope, stay friends.
Do you ever wish you had stayed in the proverbial IF closet? I do. Which, is one of the reasons I am trying to be low key this cycle. I have learned a lot about self disclosure over the past 2 and a half years. Once you've opened the door and let your loved ones in, you are always at the mercy of their opinions. I am tired of other people's opinions and "solutions" to our IF journey. I want to wear a sign at all times that says, "I know everyone has their own sob story. I'm living mine...please keep your opinions and stories to yourself."
Man, that's pretty bitchy of me. But, I guess, the truth hurts sometimes. How that statement rings so true to my heart.
Sorry - random post, random thoughts.
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I think that is true for most things. Once people know about a situation, they think it is ok to give their 2 cents. It can get annoying, but I'm sure family is trying to help. I am also sure that they don't know how to! Good luck!
I would consider myself to be still "in the infertility closet" for the most part. (Love that, btw.) There are more people IRL who don't know that we are TTC than who do.
Even at that, though, I wish I'd left some people out of the loop.
Yeah, I wish I was still 99% in the infertility closet. I told some of my friends this past cycle, and now that it failed, I wish they didn't know. I don't mind people knowing my general status, but I do mind them knowing cycle details and such. Too much pressure.
AMEN! I would love to where that sign. Yes sometimes I wish I would have stayed in the IF closet but there are those rare times that I am happy they know.
I am so glad I have stayed in the closet as much as I have. But I really have a personal problem with sharing my failures with people. I want everyone to always think that everything is OK. I'm not sure that "my way" is so great either.
:-) Good. Glad to know it got a smile. I just found it, appropriate...on so many levels. It's funny, I've got one foot in the closet, and the rest of my body out of it....still, most of my family has no clue.
It's better that way...they have way too many ignorant opinions.
I wish I had stayed in the closet. I didn't think about the fact that if I did get pregnant (which I eventually did), I wouldn't want to tell people right away. So now everyone keeps asking me how the fertility treatments are going and I feel like I have to lie. Sometimes there's no winning with IF.
Oh my gosh. . . Your post hit home for me today. I was just telling my husband last night, that I want to go back in to the infertility closet! You are so right. . . Once you open that door to family and friends, the topic dominates every conversation. Don't you just want to say to these people sometimes. . . "There is more to me than my infertility?"
You're exactly right. I wish infertility didn't have such a negative tone with people. I'm fine with mentioning it, but to watch the other person's face, it's like I've been diagnosed with terminal cancer or something. I even had a coworker say to me, "You must be devestated..." Or, there is always the neighbor, also known as SUPER FERT who has a newborn and she says to me, "Just give it time, it'll all work out. A 2% chance is still a 2% chance. Honestly, it makes me want to slap her. Ohhhhh welll....
I just want you to know that the opinions don't stop, even when you do get pregnant! I'm sorry but am here for you to listen....
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